I think it's always a good idea to wear a suit to an interview, but it can still fit well and be stylish. In your comment it seems that you equate a suit with sloppy and stodgy, but it doesn't have to be.

Heartburn is another good reason to lose weight:

http://www.m.webmd.com/heartburn-gerd/features/weight-gain-loss-heartburn

Hi and welcome - sorry about the timing.

Define what you mean by alpha female? Are you using male terms to define that, such as high paying job or assertive, take-charge personality? What does your girl game look like?

Let go of the "I look like X age". Very few people can accurately assess age, and your perceptions about what age you look do not matter one iota. Look the very best YOU can look is the best course. 

For 40+ women, you have to let go of the fear that a relationship will be short-lived. Sometimes they are. It doesn't mean anything about the character of the guy, it just means it ended. Marriage itself is not a guarantee of forever after, and it never was nor will it ever will be. You have to bring your best self every day to keep it alive and fresh and passionate and fun. 

You truly have to be a self-sufficient, functional person in your own right, not a broken half seeking to be completed. Your fear and anger over being seen as a short term fling is equally received and resented by the guys as not wanting to be seen as a meal ticket or an auto-Mr., and it reeks of baggage from the marriage. If you're going to assure me here that you don't need a meal ticket etc., save it. I'm giving you the male POV. There is very little of value in marriage for men unless they want children, and that window has passed. 

Action plan:

Become whole and healthy on your own.

Learn to embrace amiguity and flexibility in dating and beyond. 

Learn about girl game, flirting, play and lightness.

The same thing is said about food addiction, for the same reasons. I'm no expert on the subject, by any means, I'm just jaded from living with a family of substance abuse addicts and their victims for 30+ years while i was married. There are plenty of smokers and quit smoking resources that will insist that quitting smoking is harder that quitting heroin. 

I believe, in my own anecdotal, unsubstantiated opinion, that any addiction or obsession is much harder to kick if you tell yourself it's  the hardest thing ever. It all starts to get a little precious.

And when bunches of addiction sites say that their particular flavor is harder to kick than heroin, it's probably actually the benchmark heroin that is the hardest.

If you think you need senior members, you need to sign up for coaching. At the risk of repeating myself again, Hilda's group is not a replacement for the real deal, which is Athol or Serenity.

If you want to sign up for the email group, contact Hilda via PM. That's what the PM access was opened up for. 

@HildaCorners, I'm going to close this thread. It's disrespectful, a slap to newbies who are being left out for some reason, and tone deaf.