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You are not alone. Below is part of what I posted in a thread about post affair feelings/issues. I think it may help you to know others too have dealt with this trauma. Keep in mind that I filed for divorce (pending) and have not had a successful reconciliation.
But then came the trickle truth and DARVO, which is really more gaslighting, at least I think that's a fair way to describe it."
Others shared helpful perspectives in that thread.
http://marriedmansexlife.vanillaforums.com/discussion/10072/blindsided-by-thoughts-of-the-affair/p6I did not dismiss my divorce until I had a post nuptial agreement in place. A fair post nup is in the best interests of you and your family.MiddleMan said:Ah, I didn't see the part about "if she engages in infidelity again." That I could see doing.
My wife had a long term affair. It just sucks. It's hard to put into words how awful it its.MiddleMan said:3.5 hours.ch102081 said:@318JimmyNow you missed the part where the phone tracker showed his wife at OMs house for an hour today.
The 180 list is excellent and you should read it as many times as you need to. You can find the list here https://www.survivinginfidelity.com/faq_bs.asp at Q and A 11.CartB4Horse said:
Has anyone posted the "180" for you? Basically a list of what to do or not do when your spouse cheats.
Give us three things you can fix/improve within yourself this week. Anything need fixing? Have you started working out, lifting heavy? Purchased Athol's books? What have you done for YOU, and what will you do in the next 7 days?