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  • Re: Closing the Forum on 12-27-16

    Well, now I've done it.

    I get too much out of this forum to just let it go away completely ... so I set up a Google Forum. I'm not sure what I'm doing, but I'll take a stab at it.

    It's called "The MAP Group" and will be completely private and invitation only. I'm not looking to replace this forum (couldn't if I tried, Athol is just too awesome), but want a place where we can post our MAPs and get feedback and those ever-necessary clue-by-fours.

    I don't have time or the desire for active moderation, so I expect all members to be on their best behavior. I have a new ban hammer ...

    If you want to join, send me a request with your MMSL forum name in it, and an email address where I can send your invitation. My email is above. [This is an email address I created for "Hilda". You can do the same, and preserve your anonymity.]
    frillyfunTenneeCharlieUnder_ConstructionsashaAvalinetteAlphaNowPen_and_SwordShepardamblrgirlBlueWolf42andatowelTooEarlyTooLateshibariCountZeroPersephone
  • Re: The "HELLO?" Text

    Tennee's response is excellent, but if you're a bit of a wise-ass, A&A (Agree & Amplify) is good for these situations.

    "OMG!!!! I'm soooo sorry I didn't return your text in 36.2 seconds. Will you ever, ever, ever forgive me????"

    [Caution with this one.] "Cathy was playing with my phone." "Who's Cathy?" "You'll never know >:) " [new text] "But she's nowhere near as hot as you are." 

    The goal of these type of responses is to get her to smile and say "you asshole." If that's not likely, stick with Tennee's answer.
    TenneeAngeline
  • Re: Advice wanted - how to lead *and* create RC around an important topic

    Are there other places that might offer the features she wants without your constraints?

    For example, if she really wants to visit Las Vegas to check out the luxe casinos, you could go to Reno instead (or Monaco at greater cost).

    As Fredless said, it's hard to give specific advice without specifics you may not want to share, but the big thing is to find an alternate you both will enjoy. "No, we will not go to Syria, but Egypt is like Syria in X, Y, Z, and is a lot safer."
    CallmeCat
  • Re: Update From Dr Strangelove

    Lawyer said it's best to use a plain clothed professional as it is less dramatic than an officer and will hopefully set the tone for a less conflicting divorce process. The day she does get served I might take the kids with me to a fun activity and we all stay in a hotel for the night 
    FTFY

    Doc, there are several of us who are seriously worried about your kids. Please let us know you are doing everything you can to keep them safe.

    AngelineKatt
  • Re: Update From Dr Strangelove

    Listen to Crashaxe.

    Depending on your local police, they may be starting a file on your wife as an abuse-faker, which is helpful. Or they may believe you've been psychologically abusing her and she's trying to get help. Different police, different opinions.

    I'll go one further than Crashaxe, though.

    When you prepare your flee bag, put in the basics for your kids too. Also take any important papers for them and you, plus any valuables, and store them out of the house in a safe place.

    Find a local abuse shelter that will take a man with kids. Most don't, but there will be one in a big city. The local police, or your town's social services office can help you find it.

    There are no weapons in your house, right?

    Don't take the kids out of the house unless there's a clear, documented danger to them. Get that recorder ... I'm concerned that if your soon to be ex wife is doing this to you, how does she handle sassy kids?
    RorschachdrstrangeloveIrishGypsyCrashaxe