Highly over looked aspect of doggy -- there are MANY possible angles for entry. Some may result in g-spot stimulation. Others may involve cervix contact (OUCH!). 

Experiment.

Openly. Playfully. Non-judgmentally. 

I'm going to avoid the dating angle within the thread. Especially since I'm one of the people Angeline is alluding to in her comment.** However, I feel compelled to point out that you have a ton of elephants that are worth exploring. My current list is:

- religious upbringing leading to guilt and shame about all things sexual (this is the biggest one)

- bleeding during sex (always? usually? sometimes?)

- never had an orgasm

- no dating until 32, at all

- whatever the laundry list of daddy issues are

- self-esteem issues, probably arising from daddy issues but compounded by religious upbringing for sure 

And those are the confirmed ones. I have serious questions about possible attachment issues, guilt and/or shame about divorcing against religious principles, I think your mom must have some role in some of your baggage due to her (at the very least) complicity in NOT protecting her daughter from the bile your dad was heaping on you, did those several years of therapy actually work, etc. 

Not to be the wet blanket again but... that's a lot to explore. I highly recommend at least a call with @Athol_Kay


** The last date I went on with someone who isn't my wife was actually the night that OJ was making his "getaway" in that famous white ford bronco. True story. 

Superblue said:

I've considered that, but she's quite paranoid about that kind of stuff and doesn't want to get a third party involved. She won't trust anyone.

Of course not, then she might actually have to behave. 

Could we do a quick timeline?

Met your ex at age 30. 
Got married at ?
Got divorced at ?

Right now, it looks like you've been married for 3.5 years during a 13 year span. You spent a full 6 years post-divorce working on yourself with a therapist and never went on a single date during that and are now jumping back into the dating scene?  Is that a fair summary?  Or, are there some other events in there, either before or after the marriage? 

Blunt reply -- this isn't a lot to go upon and those are huge gaps of time to go without being connected with any sort of romantic partner, which typically indicates that your "triage" would contain some huge elephants. Compound that with the fact that this is a little 11th hour. This is quite the Hail Mary. 

I dunno what can be done for you in such a short time on the forums. I'd suggest a call with Athol instead to untangle this mess. Expecting a group of strangers to uncork a magical solution on Christmas Eve with few details and a really odd unclear past is truly looking for a last second miracle. 

Tomatoes are highly acidic btw. 

I personally had lots of acid problems (with tomatoes among many other things) before I lost a bunch of weight. Just FYI.