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  • Re: How can I not be gross about this?

    To be clear, my husband is not particularly squeamish or anything.   I just prefer not to unnecessarily disclose all the gnarly details of my bodily functions.  Not sexy LOL

    @bubba29 if you think *not* talking about, well, anything, bothers my husband, you haven't read many of my posts ;).  My husband can not talk like a boss!

    Angeline[Deleted User]frillyfunCallmeCat
  • Re: Mark's journey

    As far as inexpensive places to take the kids, aside from the obvious option of 
    public parks, there's fast food restaurant playgrounds - we don't really eat fast food but I'll get the kids ice cream sometimes and I'll get an iced tea and they can play for quite a while and im only out a few dollars.  Public libraries often have kids' programs aside from just going to check out books.   Check out local parent blogs / websites for your area for ideas on free and cheap things to do with the kids.   

    Now... One thing that bothered me as potentially irresponsible behavior on your part - you were out and about during the drinking and texting episode - did you drive home?   Please don't drink and drive.  There is sooooo much to be lost there.   It's so not worth it.    


    Mark72 said:


    . THen I went out and played pool and drank. 
    She text me, and I engaged while drunk.

    wranglerCartB4HorseMrsJonRomulus
  • Re: How to approach the big 'A'....?

    The universe has a mean sense of humor when women who won't discuss anal have screaming multiple o's from it, and women who have it on the regular sex menu don't O from it at all.  I think there's a disturbance in the Force.  
    Amen!   I feel totally screwed :tongue: by the lack of these fabled mind blowing Os from anal.   
    LadyOrTheTygerUnBetaMeJek[Deleted User]CallmeCat
  • Re: General off topic thread jack avoiding thread.


    little_bee said:

    As for experiencing her in the same way...I find myself asking, although it might seem disrespectful though I don't mean as such but...when did her sex life from years ago become a contest you have to win?


    Katt said:

    Also, it seems like you spend a lot of time and energy dwelling on your wife's sexual past and letting it stir up negative feelings in you.   Don't do that.   It's not good for you or her.    Enjoy what *you* have with each other.


    Kiche said:
    And, honestly, is that your only fantasy?

    Why not push one more likely to be accomplished?

    (I'd like to be filthy rich, but my time is spent better off with realistic solutions other than hoping to win the lottery...)


    All of that is about him not fixating on her past and this one act.   No one said "don't ever even attempt it".   Fixating on the old dirtbag and trying to keep up with him, for an act that DB himself said he tried before and didn't really care for is unhealthy.   Experimenting for it's own sake in a way that builds a wife's trust rather than shaking it is the way to go.    
    LL80never_againScarletJellyBeanTenneeHildaCornersLadyOrTheTyger
  • Re: How to handle Friends after an affair

    Honest question: can there ever be real trust in a relationship that originated in infidelity?   I have known a couple of relationships that started as affairs, and they were full of jealousy, suspicion, and drama.  I just don't know how you achieve trust in a relationship that started as inherently untrustworthy behavior.   
    AngelineJellyBeanWinterTenneesoa2005John3not_again