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  • Re: General off topic thread jack avoiding thread.

    Brrr... Might need a sweater on date night Friday...


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  • Re: FO Poll: What Do You Want Your Man to Know About Responsive Desire

    Historically for me, sexual attraction has been fueled more by psychological elements than physical. However, I think in most cases the physical matters at least SOME, and at a minimum has the power to diminish a man's attractiveness. For me, my husband (who would best be described as having a swimner's body - lean with some muscle definition) isn't attractive to me primarily because of his looks, far more because of his frame, but i suspect if he were a chubby couch potato, it would make him less attractive. And aside from him, there there were men who were rocking the alpha energy enough that I was attracted to them IN SPITE of the fact that they were fat, but certainly they would have been even more attractive if they were in decent shape. Their appearance was a negative, they just had enough positive to counteract it.

    OTOH, I think that, probably because men themselves are so visual, many men trying to up their attractiveness overestimate the physical. They think that because they got their physical shape in order, that should suddenly make them highly attractive. But in the absence of good alpha and positive energy, the physical alone doesn't impact women the way a woman's physical appearance impacts men. Also, I think there is some level of diminishing returns on the physical. A really bulked up guy isn't necessarily massively more attractive to women than a guy who is just "in good shape". That isn't to say that if a guy gets a good confidence boost and feels better working on bulking, he shouldn't, just that it doesn't always, on its own serve as a major attraction booster.

    Being at least "in good shape" is generally good for a person's confidence and self image, which is good for attractiveness. The physical is a piece of the puzzle, but not the whole thing, and for many women not the most important element of a man's attractiveness.
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  • Re: Katt MAPping!

    So last week I made it to the gym twice (no small feat as someone ran into my car and it was (is) in the body shop), and did some at home exercise several other days.   So I'm happy about that and hope to repeat it this week (will be able to go at least 3x a week when I get my car back hopefully by the end of the week.

    I also did well with caffeine, having 1-2 less servings than usual each day last week.   One day I only had 1 serving!!! Miracle!!!!

    I also set what I hope will be a reasonable grocery budget 

    This week's goals (monkeys)

    - Focus on eating early in the day to avoid afternoon grumps/ravenousness (already ate eggs this morning!!!)

    - Make a housework todo list each morning (or the night before); ask hubby for input 

    - Let go and play with the kids more

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  • Re: What do you apreciate about your spouse?

    I also appreciate that my husband, in spite of having a lousy example of a father, is an AMAZING, hands on dad. I couldn't possibly be more impressed with him in that regard.
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  • Re: Managing Expectations, FOs, could use your feedback

    @mrsozzy gives very good advice.   I'm a mostly SAHM (work about 16 or so hours a week) with a 4 year old and a 3 year old and I do most of the basic housework, but sometimes that means very basic.   We have clean clothes, dishes are done and kitchen and bathrooms sanitary, and I cook dinner almost every night.  The house isn't sparkling, but I try to keep it from looking like a bomb went off LOL
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