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  • Re: Nubby's 2016 map reboot

    Angeline said:
    You aren't fucked up, you just didn't want to quit. That is the single biggest predictor of success, not what method and certainly not how many years. My mom smoked for over 60 years. Cdr. Awesome smoked for almost 40. They both just stopped, cold turkey. Don't let that number get in your head.
    This^^^^^^^

    You won't quit until you want to quit. Period. And you won't quit by staying on the nipple via patches, vapes, gum, etc. Wellbutrin and chantix can help, but you have to really, really be done with it to be successful. But once you decide to really do it, you will.

    Ask me how I know!
    AngelineTennee
  • Re: Closing the Forum on 12-27-16

    Ouch.
    TenneeamblrgirlBlueWolf
  • Re: IrishGypsy's MAP - "Ah Go On!"

    I think you are already in her frame, so far that you are assuming she won't pick out a Christmas gift just so she can have the opportunity to embarrass you.

    Your trust issues are well founded, but at some point the mate guarding looks like insecurity. You are getting close to that point, in my opinion.

    I think you should STFU, get a babysitter, go out with the the boys that night and let her worry about what you are up to for a change.
    TenneeAngelineIrishGypsyfrillyfunRorschachCrashaxe
  • Re: IrishGypsy's MAP - "Ah Go On!"

    Reborn said:
    I saw you posted on another thread about a shrink4men article on hostile dependency. It's an interesting read, but I would ask you to be aware that (a) it's not a widely accepted concept, and (b) shrink4men is focused on men with badly disordered wives - it's NOT a neutral site. It tends to take a position of "lets work out what's wrong with your wife". 
    You would need to take a careful view of whether your wife is as bad as what that article is describing. 
    Have to echo this. I spent quite a bit of time on the shrink4men site while I was laid up. I ended up convincing myself (and some folks on this forum) that my wife was BSC.

    This put me back several months in the process, as it put the focus on her and not on me. In retrospect, Mrs. monkeydog was not crazy. She was a reflection of me and my poor emotional state and lack of boundaries.

    I know you are farther along in your MAP than I was at that time, but be careful with psychoanalyzing your wife. It's a slippery slope to a victim mentality.
    IrishGypsyScarletTenneeBlackwulfAngelineSerenityJellyBeanfrillyfunBeatriceamblrgirl
  • Re: Sexual Aversion/Open Marriage

    Everyone has different expectations.

    I don't know what I would do in your position.

    I have been following your story and felt I would be remiss if I didn't weigh in on the side of maybe, just maybe, trying to salvage this.

    This is about you and what you want from life, but I hope she comes to her senses.

    And I think you do too.
    AdamBecker