Angeline said:

Dude, you make me laugh

I know.

OneEyedDrunk 

That right there needs to be repeated as much as possible. That also comes off as an IOI by your wife's sister too. What that shows is your MAP is destabilizing the relationship in a good way. Your wife wants companionship and you want sex. It's a win-win. 

Man, SIL is super hot. Like, literally stops traffic. I cannot understate this.

Luckily, she was only 13 when Mrs. Monkey and I started dating, so I have her squarely in the "lititle sister" quadrant of my lizard brain.

So, IOI from her would be flattering, but also a little icky.

I agree that my wife is taking notice and is feeling left in the dust. I predict she'll be upping her girl game after the new year.

Great day. Just now at the gym, I was able to do 5 unsupported downstrokes on my gimpy leg during calf raises. 

This is is huge. I might actually be able to get up on tippy toe by summer.

Got laid this morning and had an interesting conversation after.  First my wife told me she had a sex dream  in which I fucked her in the library and she came in her sleep. 

Library card will be renewed on Monday.

Then she told me she she was bragging on me to her sister and mentioned it was like "living with a 16 year old."
Her sister said, "you should feel lucky he wants you. A lot of the time husbands get hot and then find themselves a young hottie."

Upon hearing this, I gave her crooked grin, and said, "I already have a young hottie."

Ass slap and off to the gym.

This midweek update will be the last update on this thread.

I'll start a fresh MAP on the refugee site.

I believe today I officially moved into Phase 2.

Wife's been a bit standoffish the last couple of days, 9 day drought.

So, Wednesday morning she made sure to leave bed before I initiated.

So, I got up, put on tight jeans and well fitted shirt and went out to go shopping. She was like, "wow, you look good. You look better than you did in college."

While out, I scheduled a pedicure for the 2 of us and told her to meet me there (my first pedi).

Ordered some drinks and relaxed. Wife had them take a picture and she looks at and say, "your calves are so chiseled, they make my legs look like stovepipes."

As we leave she says, "When we get home we should wrap some gifts. And by that I mean "wrap some gifts."

So, afternoon delight ensued. She put on sexy fuck dress and as we are messing around, I noticed a hole in it. Those of you familiar with my story know where this is leading...

So, I  said, "oh look, a hole" and then proceed to tear her dress off. It was a better made dress than I expected, so it wasn't as smooth as when she tore my shirt off, but it worked out with a bit of awkwardness and giggles.

Excellent afternoon delight ensued. Really nice mix of pound town and spiritual connection. I had the best orgasm I have had in long time -- very intense and long.

When we were done she said, "you know, I kind of liked that dress." I told her I'd take her shopping before our hotel date next week and she could model some for me. Win!

Update:

Kind of a slog last week as work and school winded down, band concerts and party prep.

Week of 12/12

1. GYM PT 5 days.

Check. Mixed up my routine a bit, had a really good workout on Friday. Lost 1.5 lbs.

Having some pain in my non-injured foot, probably from putting too much weight on it. I am going to try to stay off it, so may take a hit at the gym.

2. No drinking during the week.

Check, except I did have some wine Thursday, but didn't overindulge.

3. Lead on Christmas Party prep without getting stressed or bossy.

I think I did OK here. This was a flash point last year and we had a blowout. She shit tested the hell out of me -- I don't think I was too bossy, but every time she heard me directing the kids, she would try to start something. I just deflected and carried on. I probably was a bit stressed/bossy, but did much better than usual. CHECK.

4. Look my best and have a gas at our Christmas Party.

Really fun time. Party lasted until 4:30, so I was hurting pretty bad yesterday.

Got a lot of compliments on my weight loss and fitness. I still have a way to go, but it was nice not being one of the fat guys at the party.

The funny thing was most of the compliments came from my buddies, not the ladies. The funniest/most disturbing one was as follows:

"Damn Monkeydog, you have lost a lot of weight. You have a thigh gap!"

While that came from a 54-year-old straight dude, I am counting it as an IOI ... and watching my back around him!


5. Continue to work on initiations and recognizing Red, Yellow, Green, especially RED.

Well, I recognized RED this week and it was every night. No sexy for the monkey this week. No worries on this front, really weren't any good opportunities and I was way too hungover yesterday. So, I guess I was RED a few nights as well.

She is off work, so I expect we'll right that ship before the weekend.

Week of 12/19:

1. GYM PT 5 days: Look at bike for cardio this week to alleviate foot pain.
2. Finish Xmas Shopping
3. Enjoy the holidays!
4. Watch the drinking (not pledging no drinking on vacation).
5. DON'T GAIN WEIGHT!